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What goes? Sex, the scarce resource

In some approaches to sexuality between man and woman sex illustrated as a scarce commodity. At the very least suggests the behavior of some people regarding sexuality and dealing with potential sexual partners suggests. Add to that the perception that women are strongly favored in this area, so access to much greater sexual resources, potential sexual partners than men. That could have a woman who creates it just waiting around the clock sex with countless men, while a man must starve in the opposite way on the long arm.

There are several things that would under this approach the gentle reader suspicious.

1) Who are the women and men? Women between 18 and 80? Men between 18 and 75 (yes, they die sooner)? Those are taken in itself very large groups that have neither the physical characteristics of the people, nor their character, their needs, preferences, interests, values, attitudes, leisure activities, education levels, occupations, and determines other things that I do not want to come, . consider

2) Even if we assume that a woman whatever they may be such as snapping a finger just needs to pull one sexual partner in the country: Will they this at all?

The point does not seem to be whether a person has and the opportunities, but whether they felt the intention to take them. What good is it to me to be able to have sex with any man, if not turn me on? Nothing. I will not have sex.

I will not show off with statistical data, as well as those are never totally representative. But from personal experience I can tell by some men who had more multiple sexual partners, als umgekehrt. Ob das repräsentativ ist, sei dahin gestellt. Fakt ist aber, dass sich daraus nicht schließen lässt, dass Männer zwingender Weise weniger Sex mit wechselnden Partnerinnen haben, als umgekehrt. 

Gerade die Herangehensweise, Sex als knappes Gut darzustellen, was in einer monogam strukturierten Gesellschaft zudem auch noch bedeutet, dass in Partnerschaften Männer ihre Partnerinnen "besetzen" und sie somit von dem Markt an verfügbaren potenziellen Sexpartnerinnen ausschließen (Gemeinheit!), halte ich für eine Konstruktion. Eine Konstruktion, die dafür sorgt, dass Männer ständig um ihre "Triebbefriedigung" bangen, dadurch anfangen in their courtship to spread as stupid and then wonder that they do not score points. Why did they not score then? Perhaps the behavior is so easily seen through it? If I am approached in Joyclub or other portals with similar goals, so is it very quickly that the men who write me, proceed to Schmema-F, the text is not aimed at me personally, that their scribblings not easy by any manner arouses my interest. And I'm just not looking

Dealing with sexuality and the determination of sexual partners seems to me just not relaxed so wonderful.. Of course, if I assume that with every sip of water I drink my oasis and I will continue to dry up soon reach the point where I must die of thirst, while others might draw from a pool constantly producing new water, en I would also not relaxed quite a bit.

The more a man gives the impression of being on the search, the more difficult it will probably be for him to find a partner who will climb into bed with him. It does not mean that he is a bad guy, but he will not achieve the desired effect so easily and are thus confirmed in his assumption anyway. This woman should indeed have sex with him can, he can not have sex with her. Ergo. A woman can ALWAYS have sex, a man NEVER

addition seems to me this whole thing, that sex is a scarce resource to be focused too much on "the" male side. It's all about what "women" because everything might have. But not for what they want because what is more important at this point. Obviously do "they" did not use any x-any guy sex.

The focus is also still on one, as already stated not further defined, large, global group. Not to the individual. Not on the limits of where interactions Playing. On the radius of the limited space in which it resides, which can be very different depending on the person. Different in a geographical sense, in a (sub) cultural meaning, in the virtual sense. Also dependent on the group of people will be with which one can enter into sexual contact. There are also the personal characteristics that in the simple idea that more women could have sex with multiple partners, than men, as I said do not be taken into account.

Bleeding Cuts In The Moouth

The Taming

Sunday schonmal you have time to look at other blogs. And sometimes, as it is also inspired to write yourself a little. A theme that is also pleased with me also very popular, is the communication between the sexes. Especially when sex plays a role.

Adorable way I could pursue in the context today a debate between bloggers and Christian Patrick dedicated to the no. No, as voiced no. But denying the certain touch, ie the non-verbal 'no'. With the No I have even in the article "YES YES no no" apart. Although I am primarily focusing on that women should also take care to formulate a clear yes to get it relaxed all parties make.

While now in the debate between Christian and Patrick as the "no" in the center, the former takes a position that no just and interpreted, not the last word and must not be absolute. For Patrick means no , especially in sexual contexts, that it literally and action must be stopped:

" In a somewhat sexually colored situation is without special agreements to the contrary no for an clear stop sign which leads to termination of said no action. "

In one of Christian's articles, however, reads the following:.

"exist when uncertainty is enough to give her some room Will not that come down the bra, then you snogs just yet something around and try it gently again. Will they not even be touched in the crotch, then you put his hand on her butt just back and kneads the a while. You can play action and the hand slowly over two fingers move her belly to the breast can be when it says that it is vulnerable in the sense (is building something silly, but from stress). Or, if she wants anything physical, then you talk just a little while, creates trust and then tried again a careful kiss or just a touch on the arm. If one doubts its willingness, can you also make it easy to do something. Say: Just because you do not stop doing something, one must not exceed their limits. You can just go back to the last state, against whom she has nothing and work up from there again. "

Well, what can I say on the subject from my point of view? I can imagine a situation in which I make out with a man feel that he and his actions go too far. Is this then a temporary limited sense? Is it just too early? He urgently to? Or would I not make it so easy? Primarily, it would probably a situation where I will feel uncomfortable. Otherwise I would not dismiss his actions. As read the sentences, the Christian writes, is in his handling of these rejections to a strategy. He takes the situation back a little, try it again elsewhere. The focus seems to me this is not the well-being to stand the other person, but the goal that you have in mind. In addition, read the sentences as the panacea for every woman who is not directly would have it, how to get (n) and wants for each time.

I for one would know in that situation you why I will rejected. Well, not to flatten the situation, I would ask a direct question may rear. But still, I would be important that the person feels comfortable, and the Decline of the hand on the breast or in the step would be for me a clear signal to try any more. I would have been, until the person that demands perhaps himself. If this does not happen that night, then this is so. Either the person attracts me so much that I would like to see again or not. But not everything should von einer Begegnung abhängen. Und nachdem die Situation beendet ist, würde ich der Person sagen, dass ich sie nicht bedrängen wollte. Spätestens das sollte eine Grundlage für verbale Kommunikation über nonverbale Handlungen, bieten.

Kommen wir zurück zur Ausgangssituation. Ich mache mit einem Mann rum, er geht mir an den Schritt, ich möchte das jetzt nicht. Es gibt viele Gründe, weshalb ich das nicht möchten kann. Vielleicht ist es mir zu früh, ich bin nicht erregt, ich bin unrasiert und das ist mir unangenehm, oder ich habe meine Tage oder einfach keine Lust. Ist ja auch egal, Jedenfalls lehne ich die Berührung ab. Wenn er das akzeptiert, merke ich, dass er mich and takes full for my actions. He is because it is good for me. If he tries it again, I will feel left out. Tries it is not, so we continue. If I am not so shaved and not have my days, it can happen that I am in the process, come to room temperature and I would be comfortable but at some point to again have a hand in the crotch. That can signal one. Quite good even. If I previously had a hand in the crotch, then I can take it again and run in the direction. It will remember the person that it is now ok after all.

This constant Ante most, whether it is now, well, not yet, maybe in a quarter hour, it would make me mad! It has also not determined if it is intended, something unsouveränes. The person who can take it back and not constantly trying to radiate more composure, at least what I think, much more exciting than to have the feeling someone, it's all about sex, not me.

And that dealing with them, this implied "with women you have to stop to have a little patience, which has now", it is so terrible. It is objectifying. A woman may very well for himself what is ok for them, or not ok. And this-Zermürbungsstrategie, for as such I feel it, when will be tested again and again, does the person who expresses opposition, not seriously.

I do not want to say that there are not women, so welcome a behavior, ask , promote or. But why is that? Could it be that these are for women who are simply accustomed to a certain extent be determined by others? The man knows what is good for you?

And is not it not also an incredible double standard be that women who show quite offensive that they want and what they want, then have as easy and as sluts?

To me still upset over a point in Christian's line of argument, before I read the article published: white

"A woman making out with a man that he wants to keep trying something and is assigned to it that this part . Try under the normal rules are not taken one sick. "

What does that mean then? Nciht that I make out with a man may, if I will not let him in, because a man wants sex nunmal? Then I may yet not arrange to meet with him to dinner because he does so only because women and it takes a lengthy foreplay? So really only do something with men when you're ready to fuck? I'm sorry, but the logic of this statement eludes me

addition. Who Who writes what to Part? That the Company that any social groups expect something from me to say, but certainly does not mean that I have to meet. And an expectation is not legitimate for a long time for anything.